BEING HEARD IS ONE OF THE KEY NEEDS OF EVERY HUMAN BEING

As this section of my pages is about BEING HEARD which something I feel so passionate about, I have to speak of it.  Being Heard underpins all I do,  all I am. ALL I offer others in my services centres around being fully present with you to HEAR YOU. 

AS HUMAN BEINGS WE ARE ALWAYS IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH OUR SELVES AND OTHERS AROUND US.

OK so we’re HUMANS and we are BEING.  Have you ever paused for a moment in your BEING and considered how that feels. How it feels to be YOU?  Sometimes that word BEING feels really uncomfortable. How it feels to be you is something we often shrug aside. But as you have to live every moment of your life being YOU,  you deserve to really know who you are.  

SO what’s uncomfortable about that?   It may feel uncomfortable because you don’t really know who you are. Most of us disconnect from that place, quite often early on in life.  We really don’t have a relationship with ourselves at all. Yet we expect ourselves to BE in relationship with others. 

SO for a start JUST PAUSE!   (You’ll hear that a lot from me!)    Yes PRESS YOUR PAUSE BUTTON. 

AND BREATHE …. 

Press PLAY on this short audio .. and just go with it for a few minutes ….. 

PAUSE >>> BREATHE >>> AND LISTEN 

 

“Being heard is so close to being loved that for the average person, they are almost indistinguishable.”

― David W. Augsburger, Caring Enough to Hear and Be Heard​
We encounter many doors we have slammed shut in our lives. What if we found a key to open them?

DISCOVERING A HIDDEN DOOR  

You may remember moments in your life when your curiosity drew you to peep into nooks and crannies that you may never have explored before.  As a child it often got me into ‘trouble’.

As an adult .. curiosity is the power, the driving force, behind my discovery of what makes me ‘tick’ … WHO I AM …  my inner truth. It revealed a new way of living which is vital, alive, challenging, yet so beautiful in its simplicity and honesty.

I am using a ‘metaphor’ here to explain what it feels like to find something in you that feels like a hidden secret space.

My listening journey really started when I discovered a WELL HIDDEN, LOCKED  DOOR … a door I hadn’t even seen before.  But once I found the key to open it, I was surprised because it kind of felt familiar.  Yet, it was something I had never actually explored. 

THE KEY WAS AN ACT OF FAITH!  I paused,  when met the door, I was curious. I felt into what it might be.  I took a big breath and I listened and OPENED IT …..   I held so many secrets to who I was. 

The KEY was all about learning to LISTEN to myself.  To HEAR what was in me … what I needed … what I wanted from life … what I was passionate about. Frankly, to begin with, I felt that this was such a small voice in me that just had never been heard. I felt guilty to be asking myself what I needed for a change. To REALLY hear that . To KNOW I had to take notice of that voice

That was the beginning of my journeying into a process that I will call  SACRED LISTENING.  SACRED because it IS special. IT IS YOUR SPACE TO PAUSE AND HEAR YOU FOR A CHANGE. 

PAUSING AND LISTENING TO YOURSELF IS THE GREATEST GIFT YOU CAN GIVE YOURSELF.
IT IS THE GREATEST GIFT OF LOVE YOU WILL EVER RECEIVE.

Many people don’t know how to do this . They don’t know where to start. Or maybe when they begin to fear themselves, it becomes too much.  

THIS WHAT I HAVE SPENT THE LAST 15 YEARS LEARNING HOW TO DO,  TO LISTEN TO MYSELF. IT IS THE GREATEST GIFT I WILL EVER RECEIVE. 

AND IT IS A SKILL YOU CAN LEARN.

MY TRAINING AND EXPERIENCE HAVE SHOWN ME MANY WAYS TO TEACH THIS TO OTHERS. IT’S WHAT i DO!   

PAUSE ... BREATHE ...LISTEN

I CAN OFFER YOU A SAFE, NON JUDGEMENTAL SPACE TO LEARN THIS SKILL

For those who want to know more: 

What is Sacred LIstening?

Sacred Listening can be described as a PROCESS and is certainly one that we can teach others.  Yet we are simply creating a space to allowing you to discover that it is not just your mind that can give you the answers you seek!  If we are quiet and patient we can follow a more subtle bodily sense of knowing. Some call this their INNER TRUTH or INNER WISDOM.

As we get to know this sense .. we begin to see that can rely in it to guide us with a much greater sensitivity than our thoughts!  Our thoughts are fleeting and change moment by moment as we are influenced by our surroundings and a million and one other things. Our body sense is subtle .. and it is ALWAYS there for us, if we know how to give it our attention … how to LISTEN to it.  We sometimes recognise that we have a ‘gut feeling’ about something. It has an essence of truth about it.  It is an example of our bodily sense of the FELT KNOWING. 

Discovering this, gently allows space for this felt sense to unfold naturally, expanding the dimensions of our experience. No rushing to fix something, no judging or criticising … just getting to know yourself and what you really need in your life.

Who can learn SACRED LISTENING?

In my experience everyone can benefit from learning how to this skill, no matter what their age!

I am a qualified and experienced Practitioner with the British Focusing Association.  The British Focusing Association writes that those people that use Focusing report a range of benefits including:

  • “I feel more like me.”
  • “I feel so much more alive.”
  • “I feel like I can really listen to others.”
  • “I have learned to really listen to my self.”
  • “I have a sense of clarity and purpose that I didn’t have before.”
  • “I’ve finally been able to make a choice that feels right about something that I was completely stuck about.”
  • “That tight place in my stomach has finally relaxed. I can breathe deeply for the first time in years.”
  • “Taking time for me in this way feels so good.”

Sacred Listening (Focusing) allows a discovery in the best sense of that word :  Discoveries reveal that which isn’t yet really known to us  or isn’t yet clear ….  

How to Learn Focusing?

As a Focusing Practitioner

  • I offer a free introductory session which allows you to get a feel of what I do!
  • I also offer a both a 3 and a 6 session package that gives leaves you with a solid experience of focusing.

More details can be found by clicking here:

To find out more: Learning the Art of Focusing